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She fell
She crashed
She broke
She cried
She crawled
She hurt
She surrendered

and then...

She rose again


- Nausicaa Twila

 

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I was born and raised in a Mormon Utah household by two alcoholic parents who were involved in criminal activities throughout much of my childhood. This unique form of contrast and conditioning created a great sense of dissonance, heartbreak, and chaos. My mother eventually had a physical and mental breakdown and left the country when I was a teen, leaving me and my three sisters with our unstable father and a lasting mark of abandonment on my psyche.

 

When I was finally able to move out and create my own life, I got married at 19, started a family, then moved to California (and later Chicago) and found myself on an unexpected and arduous journey through chronic Lyme disease that left us financially ruined and me mostly bedridden for more than a decade. During that time, my husband was going to school, working a full time job, and raising our kids mostly on his own.

 

I was swimming in complex trauma and we were drowning as a family and we eventually lost our home and had to move back to Utah with our four children for a period of radical rest and recovery.

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We fought hard and I studied voraciously and did everything I could to heal and persist through the constant gaslighting and ignorance offered to us by friends, family, church associates, and health professionals.

 

I was eventually able to claw my way to a moderate level of physical relief, only to then watch my son go through a very similar journey with his health that created another round of medical chaos that I simply wasn't ready for.

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That became my mental rock-bottom and a wake-up call to get professional mental health help.

 

It also became a time of great unraveling of my entire conditioned belief system from a high-control religion that contributed to my many of my trauma symptoms.

 

During that time, I worked with several professionals and therapists and poured myself into the study of mental health and personal well-being through books, podcasts, articles, and videos created by licensed mental health professionals. This combined effort turned out to be life-changing and helpful for me in many ways.

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Little by little, I rebuilt a new life by:

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reclaiming my basic human right of self-determination and personal autonomy,

 

simplifying and minimizing clutter and chaos as much as I could,

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re-establishing a sense of safety and peace,

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facing the truth of my traumas within a careful window of tolerance,

 

setting healthy boundaries,

 

developing healthy coping tools and practices for recovery,

 

and cultivating beauty, peace, and joy wherever and however I could.

 

I don't share my trauma story to "play" victim or to get pity. This was my reality that I didn't choose.

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I was a victim of many painful life experiences I never asked for.

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Many people use toxic positivity and even the word "victim mentality" as a weapon to blame, bypass, ignore, downplay, and gaslight actual victims of mistreatment, harm, trauma, or heartbreak. I vowed I would never do that to people who have gone through difficult things in their lives.

 

Even though I didn't ask to go through the kind of traumas that were handed to me, I always knew I had to fight for something better if I was ever going to find peace and fulfillment in my life. I knew I had to do the work to heal my mind and body in whatever ways I could.

 

So that’s what I have done.

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I have worked hard to learn, heal, and change my life to be in greater alignment with the values that bring me the highest level of peace and fulfillment.

 

And here I am today. 

 

I am not at the end of my story.

 

There is so much more life to live. 

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I don't have everything figured out. (I'm cautious of anyone who claims to.)

 

I still deal with many health challenges that will most likely never fully go away in my lifetime.

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I know that life will continue to throw challenges my way.

 

I am an imperfect human that is simply trying to heal, deal, and accept the ups and downs of life while cultivating joy, beauty, and peace wherever and however I can along the way.

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I still sometimes struggle with the realities of being human and living in a body that has endured so much trauma in so many different ways, but I now have a greater understanding, wider view, and better tools to help me navigate life, accept my story, own my own life, and create a life of purpose and meaning that makes sense to me and the people I love.

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My life is not is not perfect and will never be just one thing,

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but it is real,

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it is honest,

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it is beautiful,

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and it is mine.

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Disclaimer: I would like to take the time to recognize my privilege to even have the resources to be able to do the work to heal from trauma, which is why I will always support systems and people who are working to help all victims of hurt, harm, and mistreatment get the help they need. 

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"The true measure of any society can be found in how it treats its most vulnerable members." - Gandhi

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​If you are unable to find resources at this time, please look for free, quality content online that is created by licensed mental health professionals who are operating within a clear set of ethics based on evidence-based research. Please also seek for assistance from your local organizations that are helping those in need. I see you. Sending so much love.

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